It’s hard

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Why does it seem when everything is going amazing there is always someone to pull you down? I try to keep my head up but it gets to a point where even if you are the  most positive person and you try to stay that way, you just ask if it is worth it to be that way. Because it’s so easy to be like everyone else. It’s like you just want to stop trying. You just want to give in, give up and just stop being what makes you, you.

Then I read this post by one of my fellow bloggers Brandon Knoll. And he is so right!

When anyone tries to make you feel less, try to make you feel like you cannot do anything, or even tries to destroy what you are proud of remember they are the ones that are wrong. They choose the easy route to make you feel insignificant, undesirable, unworthy, unhappy, unaccomplished. They do it to make themselves feel superior to you because you are happy with you. You are wanted. You are beautiful. You are amazing. Don’t let anyone ever crush you, take you apart, or destroy you. Stay positive and happy. They cannot take that away from you unless you allow them to. Be what you are you…no one can take that away from you.

Thanks Brandon for that amazing post. You reminded me of what is important.

Minimalist or not….?

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I am not a minimalist yet. Does that mean I never will be? No…because I am trying to reach a point in my life where material things will not hinder me from doing things I want to do. Yes I like to have nice things and I will buy things if I can do so with out putting myself into debt. Which I am fortunate enough to be able to do because I watch what I spend and how I spend. I choose to buy things in a way most people do not. I might use a credit card but I make sure I am able to pay it off at the end of the month before I make any purchase. I make sure what I buy is something I will use and get use out of. I do not buy things just for the sake of buying anymore.

Now that I have said this, let me explain why this has come up. It seems when we decide (me and my husband) to put our feet a little higher up to do something, we always have people trying to put things in our way. Now I know some of these people have good intentions and they don’t look at things quite the same way we do. They look at it as if we are depriving ourselves of enjoyment, instant gratification, or whatever. Those are not so bad because they do have good intentions. Then you have those who will make fun of us and call us cheap, stingy, or even worse tell us we are depriving our kids of some kind of enjoyment that material things bring. They will make you miserable whenever you see them because they think you are being ridiculous in your goals. They think that instant gratification is more important then being debt and worry free. Either of these two groups can be so disheartening sometimes. Especially when it is close family members and you want to be around them. Some of it I think is jealousy, some of they think they know what is better for us then we do, and some think that we should just be lazy and go with the flow. Whereas I appreciate their input, our lives are our lives. We make the choice we make for ourselves. In the end I want my kids to remember me for me not for what I bought for them. I want to remember what me and my husband did together not for what he bought on his credit card. Why is that so hard for people to understand? Why do people put such high value on things that don’t last and so little on things that do?

All I know, is that in 5 1/2 years my house will be paid off and I will be 45 yrs old. I know my husband will 54 years old. I know my kids when they are my age cannot say that their dad and mom were not around when they needed us. I know I will be able to say my family is stronger and does not need material things to hold us together. We can say we actually enjoy being together. In the end that is all that matters.

Fit Challenge Week 7

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Here is to week 7!! I have stayed pretty much at the same weight as last week but the difference is I have started light strength training to couple with my Gazelle. When I was younger (geez that sounds like I am ancient), I used to do light weight lifting. Not only that but I used to help my dad in his tire shop to move tires, clean out the bays, and help load his truck…anything that my brother was not able to do I helped with. When I look back at my younger self I realize the one big thing that changed in my life was I no longer did as much strength training as I did when I was younger. I used lift dumbbells when I was not lifting tires :). It was a huge thing and I never realized how much. So in changing my lifestyle choices that include my eating and exercising, I am going to add some light strength training to my routine. I know adding this kind of exercise probably will not allow me to lose weight as quickly (muscle weighs more then fat) but I believe this is a better route to go especially as I am getting older. I need that extra protection in muscle mass to prevent major issues.

So here I am now. I am not excited about my weight but you know what I am not going to focus strictly on my number although it is important and I am going to lose the weight I want. I am going to focus instead on building my strength, endurance, and well being. Because my health is more important and the changes I make now will show the end results I want.

Fit Challenge week 7:

Height: 5′ 7″

Age: 38

Weight : 178.2

My bust: 38 in

My waist: 32 in

My Hips: 37 in