Category Archives: My Opinion (and that’s all it is)

Sorry I have not been around

Hey everyone!  I know I have not been the best blogger of late. I have not been keeping up with all my updates and everything. I am sorry. I could tell you it’s because I have been doing so much and just did not have the time (that’s partially true). Or I could tell you I just did not have anything to write about. Or even still I could tell you I was just tired of it and needed space.

All of it is true and not true.

I have been busy with life and all of the changes that come with it. I have had to make decisions again in my life as to what is important and not so much anymore. As I said in a previous post I was going back to a place that I no longer wanted to be but I could feel myself slipping down again. So I had to take a step back and do some major soul searching. I had to come to a realization I was more important then what anyone could say or do. I found a few things when doing that:

  1. I am me. No one can change me except me.
  2. People will always be envious. I don’t say everyone does it intentionally sometimes it’s unintentional. I feel that way as well sometimes. It’s natural. But how you treat people is up to you
  3. Not everyone has your best interests at heart…even if they love you.
  4. Life is too short to really care about what the haters think.
  5. Things usually are not as bad as they seem and they can always be worse then what they are.

I know most of these are givens and I know everyone will agree that we all can use improvements. I am trying to make a better me. Maybe I am trying to hard but I don’t think so. I look at myself now and what I was 12 or 13 years ago and I see how far I have come. It’s not been an easy trip. I have had to leave things behind. But when I look at them now…I realize how unimportant they were. But I also realize without those things I would not be the person I am now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

why buy something you don’t need

 

I couldn’t help but see credit card offers every where I go. It bugs me to see them out there advertising about how easy it is to have a credit card…We’ve seen them…

Why would you put yourself into a lifetime of debt just for one instant gratification? I know these offers are not bad things. But what it leads to, if you are not careful, is revolving debt. Yes that 0% seems amazing, but will you be able to pay off that balance at the end of the term? Or will you have to find another offer to transfer again and rack up more debt?

I am not criticizing credit cards because they are a great thing if used correctly. But the reality of the situation is the majority of us do not. Why do we continue to by useless things just to appease that “I see it so I want it” mentality. We keep adding more and more debt to our lives just because we want that new thing or want to go on some fabulous vacation. I am here to ask you this question…are these thing so worth it that you cannot plan and save money to actually do it debt free? I am not advising against using credit cards because I do. But I always have a plan before I use it. If I cannot pay the card off I do not use it. I make sure I know what I get into before I do it. Too many of us go into it not realizing the dangers of it. Weigh all of your options and really think about what you are buying or doing before you do it.

Did you miss me…or was this a hiatus…

Hey everyone!! It’s been awhile since I did a full post. I needed some time to get my head straight on a few things going on which I will share partially here. There have been things going on that I have had to come to terms with and the reality of my life is that I have to put somethings first whereas others are not necessarily last but I had to and still am trying to figure out if they are worth it. I think in a way I have had to “clean house”  in my mind, body, and soul. No I am not getting spiritual here but it’s not a bad thing. This is my journey and I am finding out things that I thought were important are not and things that might not have been paid attention to are. It was an interesting thing.

The first thing, I was having a conversation with another female a few days ago about the big discussion going on “why can’t women have it all” …..Let me stop here before I go any further I am not trying to sway one way or the other or judge anyone who has one way or the other. This was just a conversation……  We were talking about and the discussion got a little heated on her side due to her believing that if a woman makes enough money she can have it all. That she can have the husband, kids, home…everything if she just made enough money. That if she made enough money that she could hire someone to take care of the kids while at work, clean her home, cook her meals…etc. Then she could come home and “spend time with her family”. My side of it was how is that having it all? You have someone else doing everything you would otherwise be doing as a “mom” just to say you have a career. You’re at work. When you come home after working 10 – 12 hrs a day you will not want to spend time with the kids if you are not already used to doing this. She then turned around and told me that is why I will never be “rich” and that I have become “lazy” in my life. At that point I felt the need to change the conversation due to things were getting heated and this person and I are very close. During this discussion, I started thing about things in my own life and I started wondering if I made the right choices. But since this conversation I have come to this conclusion: Being rich is not the only thing important. Yes there is not a time where I wish we had more money but thankfully we are not doing without. But there is not a day that I regret having to come home, due to circumstances, to raise my kids and enjoy them from the time they were babies up until now as they are teenagers (eek!). We could have had a bigger home, fancier cars, been in that “area” of the city but at what consequence?

In my life, I have made choices. Some I was forced to make due to circumstances others I made free and clear of any outside intervention. One choice I have discussed in this blog lightly is the fact of having to remove myself from certain situations in the past and seems like I still have to now. It seems when I am finally at a point in my life that I have my head up and I feel amazing, there is always someone to try to bring me back down into the muck. This has been happening the last few months as well and is part of the reason my posts up until I quit posting were getting a little monotonous. I almost went back to the way I was back in 2005. What brought me back this time was the new me. I had started going back into my old habits. I started getting hurt and angry too easily. I started to fall back into that trap of nothing. I even started gaining the weight I have worked so hard to get off. It then dawned on me this is exactly what they want. They want me to be as miserable as they are. Even though they like to say they are happy and get to do everything that I can’t do and have everything I don’t. But you know what…I have everything I want. I am the one that has to live my life. I am the one that has to do what I can in my life and I know I am not going to let them drag me down just make me less then them. I can just imagine everything that is said when I am not around….and I think it is hilarious!!

Over the years, I have had to let go of things that I had my heart set on, Things that I always thought that I wanted. But as I am reaching forty (OMG), I am finding out how much energy I wasted on wanting something I would never have. I have for so many years wanted to be part of a venture that was began before I was born. I had always thought I would be part of it. Not because of money but because it was literally part of my life constantly. As the years went by, I found out that it was not going to happen for various reasons. Needless to say this made me feel as if I was not good enough, that I did not have the abilities that were needed. It took me a long time to get past that. Actually to be honest I am not too sure I am even now. I had always believed that if I proved myself in everything they put in front of me I could be what they wanted. But needless to say it was not good enough. I wasted so many years doing this. Now I will be 40 my birthday and you know what…I’m done with trying to live up to some expectation that I will never achieve. Does that mean I will slack off? Does that mean I will not continue to achieve what I want?  No what it means is I will set my own expectations and be damned if they like it or not.

The sad thing with these things I have posted here is that, these are close people to me and they really are not bad people. But I had to make a choice all those years ago, and I have to renew that decision, that put me on the path I am today. I have to realize that whereas they are a part of my life and are important to me, I have to let what is said or done “go in one ear and out the other”. I cannot allow anyone to make me less then I am. Not anymore. My life is set on a path. I just have to remember that. I have to remember that there are going to be potholes, diversions, and forks in the road but in the end it will all end up in the same spot. How I want to get there is up to me no one else.

Minimalist or not….?

I am not a minimalist yet. Does that mean I never will be? No…because I am trying to reach a point in my life where material things will not hinder me from doing things I want to do. Yes I like to have nice things and I will buy things if I can do so with out putting myself into debt. Which I am fortunate enough to be able to do because I watch what I spend and how I spend. I choose to buy things in a way most people do not. I might use a credit card but I make sure I am able to pay it off at the end of the month before I make any purchase. I make sure what I buy is something I will use and get use out of. I do not buy things just for the sake of buying anymore.

Now that I have said this, let me explain why this has come up. It seems when we decide (me and my husband) to put our feet a little higher up to do something, we always have people trying to put things in our way. Now I know some of these people have good intentions and they don’t look at things quite the same way we do. They look at it as if we are depriving ourselves of enjoyment, instant gratification, or whatever. Those are not so bad because they do have good intentions. Then you have those who will make fun of us and call us cheap, stingy, or even worse tell us we are depriving our kids of some kind of enjoyment that material things bring. They will make you miserable whenever you see them because they think you are being ridiculous in your goals. They think that instant gratification is more important then being debt and worry free. Either of these two groups can be so disheartening sometimes. Especially when it is close family members and you want to be around them. Some of it I think is jealousy, some of they think they know what is better for us then we do, and some think that we should just be lazy and go with the flow. Whereas I appreciate their input, our lives are our lives. We make the choice we make for ourselves. In the end I want my kids to remember me for me not for what I bought for them. I want to remember what me and my husband did together not for what he bought on his credit card. Why is that so hard for people to understand? Why do people put such high value on things that don’t last and so little on things that do?

All I know, is that in 5 1/2 years my house will be paid off and I will be 45 yrs old. I know my husband will 54 years old. I know my kids when they are my age cannot say that their dad and mom were not around when they needed us. I know I will be able to say my family is stronger and does not need material things to hold us together. We can say we actually enjoy being together. In the end that is all that matters.

Allergy alert – METHLISOTHIAZOLINONE

I’m not a person who promotes products or tells you not to use something unless I have a reason behind it. As from previous posts, if you have been following me for a while, you all know my daughter has eczema. We were fortunate enough to find goat milk soap by sheer coincidence on field trip we took once. It was an amazing product that almost totally cleared up her skin. But even with that she still had places that did not go away. As a mom, I was still upset about it. I mean what mom would not be right?

So as time went by, those places stayed on her skin. We got to the point were we had hydrocortisone on hand constantly to keep the flare ups down. During this time I was searching online for anything to help her when I happened upon research done in the UK on the chemicals “methylisothiazolinone” and “methylchloroisothiazolinone”. The research done on those chemicals basically was stating that there was incidence of skin related allergies to use products containing these chemicals. In other lab tests it has also been said to possibly cause nerve damage. There are a lot of articles concerning this. Some can be found at the following links:

https://www.dermnetnz.org/topics/methylisothiazolinone-allergy/

https://www.thespruce.com/methylisothiazolinone-how-its-used-1707023

https://www.truthinaging.com/ingredients/methylisothiazolinone

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Methylisothiazolinone

 

I know a lot of these articles are considered bias. And I also know that a lot of people will think that regardless of what I have said above will believe some how I am benefiting from telling you to stop using products that contain these chemicals. If that was true I would list the shampoos that we now use because it does not contain it. We started out with the cheapest brand and at that time was the only one that did not contain it. This was 3 years ago. She no longer has any visible signs of eczema. She has not had a flare up in at least 2 of those 3 years. We stopped using the products that had it in after she started using goat milk soap. I am not saying 100 % that the above chemicals caused her eczema but what I am saying is that these chemicals did make it worse. And when I took them out of use in our house she no longer suffered. To me that is proof enough to say there is an issue. On a side note, I am not paid to promote in products but if you would like to know the three brands of shampoo that we have found for your own benefit. Drop me a message and I will be glad to share.

 

World Health Day

Today is April 7, 2017 and it is designated World Health Day by WHO – World Health Organization.

If you have not done at least 30 minutes of physical exercise today….there is no time like the present!!

  • Get up and go for a walk in the beautiful spring day.
  • Do 30 minutes of yoga
  • Do 30 minutes of cardio
  • Go out and clean up your yard or flower beds
  • Just do something!!

Happy World Health Day!!

 

HAPPY PI DAY!!!

Ok I have to get my geek on. Today is the official day for that pesky little number that we have to use to determine the diameter of a circle 3.14!! Here are a few little tidbits of history about PI

  • The ancient Babylonians generally calculated the area of a circle by taking 3 times the square of its radius (pi=3), but one Old Babylonian tablet (from ca. 1900-1680 BCE) indicates a value of 3.125 for pi.
  • Ancient Egyptians calculated the area of a circle by the following formula (where d is the diameter of the circle): formula:  [(8d)/9] squaredThis yields an approximate value of 3.1605 for pi.
  • The first theoretical calculation of a value of pi was that of Archimedes of Syracuse (287-212 BCE), one of the most brilliant mathematicians of the ancient world. Archimedes worked out that 223/71 < pi < 22/7. Archimedes’s results rested upon approximating the area of a circle based on the area of a regular polygon inscribed within the circle and the area of a regular polygon within which the circle was circumscribed.
  • A novel way to compute pi:  An eighteenth-century French mathematician named Georges Buffon devised a way to calculate pi based on probability. Buffon’s method begins with a uniform grid of parallel lines, a unit distance apart. If you drop a needle of length k < 1 on the grid, the probability that the needle falls across a line is 2k/pi. Various people have tried to calculate pi by throwing needles. Depending on when you stop the experiment, you can obtain a reasonably accurate estimate of pi.
  • The symbol for PI was introduced by the British mathematician William Jones in 1706, who wrote:

    3.14159 =pi

    This symbol was adopted by Euler in 1737 and became the standard symbol for pi.

source for info:  http://ualr.edu/lasmoller/pi.html

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Ok enough of the geekiness 🙂 ….lets go have some PIE!! Have a great PI DAY!!!

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New Year, life, happiness and a continuation of a better me

So as you all know I have not been posting a lot this past month. The holidays, family, and me revaluating me. I refuse to make New Year’s resolutions because…let’s be honest…no one ever keeps their New Year’s resolution. So instead of doing that I am reiterating the goal I intend to achieve: I am going to improve my eating habits, continue to do the exercising that I have been doing, and I am going to lose the weight I have left to lose.

In the last month I have discovered that when I made a decision not to allow people to control what I do or how I choose to live…I have started to live what really seems to be a better life. And as much as I hate to admit it because I hate to see people  care about unhappy, I am actually happier and a lot calmer. I am glad that I no longer ( or at least most of the time) allow certain people to get under my skin. My holidays went a lot smoother then in years past.  Does that mean I don’t go around my family or want to talk to them? No it just means I know how to manage myself and not worry about what everyone thinks or says.Thank goodness I made the choice I did 11 years ago.

A few things I want to accomplish this year…more goals then resolutions…just have to put my best foot forward:

  • continue to improve my health with my fitness goals
  • continue to pay down any debt we have (extra on house payment)
  • manage myself better
  • be a better parent especially now that my kids are teenagers
  • be a better wife 🙂

Overall, I think this year is going to be a great one. I think it will be a little challenging in some areas but I know we will be able to do it. I know I will be doing more for myself to improve me and help my kids and husband do well for themselves. WE will accomplish what we set our minds to do. So here is to the first step…we will be great!!

 

 

 

Family Time…Happy Thanksgiving

As we set our tables for another beautiful Thanksgiving, I want to share what I am grateful for. I am grateful for all of my family. I am thankful that I am able to have a wonderful day with all of my family. I appreciate everything that this closeness to my family brings. I am fortunate to be able to be near my family and be able see them everyday. I am thankful I have a roof over my head. I am glad I have a job that I am able to bring extra money into our home. I am glad we are able to put extra money towards paying our house off (approx 6 1/2 years left).  I am happy that I have found everyone here on WordPress. Most of all I am thankful I can wake up every morning (even if it is at 3:45) next to the man who has given me two amazing kids and loves me just for me.

 

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Hello and Happiness

I was reading a post earlier from one of my favorite bloggers A Momma’s View and it really got me thinking. I am normally a high energy person and when I’m up in the morning, I’m up. Out of my day I can honestly say I stay happy and energetic. That’s not to say I don’t have my down days because I do. I mean there are times I don’t feel good or have had a bad day….I am human 🙂  If I am having a down day I do everything I can to pull myself up and make it as great as I can. But what really got me thinking when I read the above post was how they always greet each other whether it be someone they know or are complete strangers. I had a boss tell me once that if you smile when you talk to a customer (I work phone help desk) it will come out in your voice. That is so true!! It also works when you greet people, whether you know them or not. I make a habit to say hello or at least give a smile and acknowledge someone is there because you never know, they might actually need that. It does not have to be a drawn out introduction or obviously going out of your way to say it. It could just be a simple wave, smile, or hello. It is infectious once you start. Try it! It will make you feel great and you might make someone’s day!!