Excuse me if I am venting a little bit. At work today I helped one of my co-workers with some issues she was having. Now mind you she has not been working with us very long. Actually she is fresh out of training, and today was her second day on the phones. I helped her once earlier in the day and I thought she had it. Come to find out she really didn’t and when I spoke to her again she was on the verge of tears and about to walk away. At first I thought something had happened, but come to find out she was having major difficulty with the apps and navigating the systems. When I spoke with her at the end she had come to tell me she wanted to resign. I calmed her down and actually talked to her as a person not just another task that had to be done. I got her to continue with her last hour of the day.
The reason I bring this up is not so much the fact to keep someone working to do their job as is to show a little kindness, a little compassion, a little care. Just to talk to someone to help them over the hump that might be stopping them from succeeding. I cannot tell you how upset I was not because my colleagues didn’t assist her but because they didn’t even try to understand or help her. We all have been there where she is at that moment. We all know how it feels…and nothing. In the position I am in as well as my colleagues, we have no time limit, or production, or demand other then answering questions from our agents. We are essentially support for them. But yet this woman calls in and is her second day and is asking for help and no one helps. WHY?
I know the world moves fast and people forget sometimes but it seems more and more today people care less. They don’t put a little more effort forth unless there is something in it for them or they are told to they have to. I’m not saying everyone out there is like this but we all have had those moments. All I ask of everyone is to not brush someone off or ignore someone who is asking for help. That person may just need someone to listen to them and it could make all the difference for them as well as you.
As I said in previous blog, I am coming back with a different approach to this blog. I am going to keep it lean. I think I bit off more then I could chew and even though it was fun I could not keep up with it like I wanted to. I am going to keep certain aspects but others I am doing away with just because I cannot maintain them as well and it would be a disservice to you as my readers. I am keeping my “A Quote a Day”, “Adventures”, “Health and Exercise”, “Hobbies”, “My Opinion (and that is all it is)”, “Poetry”. “Reblogged Posts”, “Recipes”, “Some Good Links”. Anything else that was here I am trimming out. I may do some other trimming later in the year. We will just have to wait and see.
I will start my fitness posts again once a week but this time I am going to hold myself accountable more then I did last year. And whereas I do have a specific goal, I think I failed myself in having to lofty of a goal all at once. I am still keeping that 150 pounds in mind but I am taking smaller steps just because I burned out with my exercise. I still exercised but I started hating it and it became harder. Not to say it was ever easy, it just lost it’s shine so to speak. I am going to post a pic of my Fitbit page each week to show you all my progress. I can’t fib that…lol.
My quote a day will start tomorrow and like last time, it will be everyday. I think that was one of my most popular categories and I hope you will all continue to enjoy it.
My recipe category I will do a post once a week. I will do my best to find some interesting recipes as well as use some from my own culture. We all love to eat so hopefully I can find at least some everyone will enjoy.
The rest of my categories on my blog will be attended too as well when inspiration strikes. 🙂
I hope none of you left during my hiatus but if you did I hope you find me again. I hope I can keep your interest in the few things I do.
I wish you all a productive amazing New Year and all you hopes and wishes come true!!
I know it’s been a long time since I posted things on here. I didn’t leave because of something said or something done. I didn’t leave because I wanted to stop posting my life. I left because I wanted to disconnect. It was getting to the point where I was becoming obsessive (never a good thing) with the whole blog idea. I had to stop myself. It had started to affect me in a lot of ways (both good and bad) and brought up a lot of things I thought I had long forgotten. Things not all bad but none the less, wanted to move on from. It dredged up old memories of things that made me who I am but I did not want to remember. That’s the reason I left.
I want to make this blog what I originally wanted. Just a place that I could come to talk out loud. But it started to feel like it was slipping away from that and just becoming “everything and nothing” . I realize it was my fault I should have stayed within my idea but it is so easy to get lost. It is so easy for things to get overly complicated when there is no reason for it. As you my followers see, I did not close it. I just stopped posting. Not the best idea but it I did.
But guess what…I’m baaaack!! (lol)
I am coming back after the first of the year and am going to do a reboot of my blog to get it back to what I wanted to do originally and try to help myself as well as anyone wanting an ear, virtual hug, or anything in that realm of help. We all live in this life, lets make the best of it that we can.
I started this blog as a place to voice my feelings. A place to open up and just spill my guts out and not worry so much about what anyone thinks. Then it changed and I added things to it. I then started sharing my weight loss journey, which I received encouragement and help. Then I started opening up about my journey to get where I am now. But what I did not expect was to open old wounds when doing so. Or having to deal with other issues outside that made it more difficult. Needless to say I am still here 🙂
I have rediscovered myself in a new way and considering I will be hitting the big 4-0 in a few weeks I am realizing that the things in the past, no matter if they come back into your memories or not, are in the past. We cannot change the things that have happened. We can only work hard not to repeat them. We can either hold grudges toward people or move on. We can either allow all the things that have happened to eat us up inside or accept that they made us the people we are, for better or worse. We are what we choose to be not what things have made us. We try to set an example for our children and hope they don’t make the mistakes we have but in the end they have to make those choices as well. Life is about choices. We make them no one else does.
I also did some soul searching. I know I have preached it that only we are responsible for the choices we make. But I’ll be honest, I did not do as I preached. It’s hard to say that because I don’t like being a hypocrite. I paid the price though. As I said above, I opened a few old wounds because of it. I literally just ripped the scab right off and poured salt on it. Why? Because I started blaming other people for my choices. I blamed them for things that went wrong because I could not face the fact that it was my fault. But you know what…I stopped. I started thinking about everything…and in that moment of clarity I realized I am not perfect. I am human. It is hard to describe the feeling that I felt at that moment. Because right then and there I stopped and realized the past is gone. No matter how much we want to change it we can’t. Anything we did has been done. You can express regret and ask for forgiveness, but in the end you have to let it go. Even if the person or persons that were part of it can’t. This part of my life, I have shut the book on. I may go back occasionally and hit the highlights but I am not going back there again.
I will be making some changes to my blog in the next few weeks. Nothing major, just things for me. Hopefully, I won’t lose any of you. But if you do go hopefully you will make your way back. Until next time…Namaste.
I’m still around!! Sorry I have not been really blogging too much recently. I’ve had somethings I needed to get straight in my head and life. I am still working on a few things because if I don’t straighten them out I will regret it. I have to put things in their places and stop worrying so much what everyone else thinks. But you know what…it’s hard. Especially when it’s people that are a major part of your life. I am lucky this time. I have an amazing husband that helps me realize things that are said disappear with the breeze and things that are done are forgotten about after they do them. He has shown me that I cannot allow everything to get to me.
All that being said, my life is coming back together and I will be posting again. It’ll just be a little bit longer. I will be back 🙂
Hey everyone! I know I have not been the best blogger of late. I have not been keeping up with all my updates and everything. I am sorry. I could tell you it’s because I have been doing so much and just did not have the time (that’s partially true). Or I could tell you I just did not have anything to write about. Or even still I could tell you I was just tired of it and needed space.
All of it is true and not true.
I have been busy with life and all of the changes that come with it. I have had to make decisions again in my life as to what is important and not so much anymore. As I said in a previous post I was going back to a place that I no longer wanted to be but I could feel myself slipping down again. So I had to take a step back and do some major soul searching. I had to come to a realization I was more important then what anyone could say or do. I found a few things when doing that:
I am me. No one can change me except me.
People will always be envious. I don’t say everyone does it intentionally sometimes it’s unintentional. I feel that way as well sometimes. It’s natural. But how you treat people is up to you
Not everyone has your best interests at heart…even if they love you.
Life is too short to really care about what the haters think.
Things usually are not as bad as they seem and they can always be worse then what they are.
I know most of these are givens and I know everyone will agree that we all can use improvements. I am trying to make a better me. Maybe I am trying to hard but I don’t think so. I look at myself now and what I was 12 or 13 years ago and I see how far I have come. It’s not been an easy trip. I have had to leave things behind. But when I look at them now…I realize how unimportant they were. But I also realize without those things I would not be the person I am now.